Pagsalo (The Act of Taking In): A Phenomenological Study on the Parentification Experiences of Filipino Young Adults
Daniel Anne Paculan | Lea Elivera
Discipline: others in psychology
Abstract:
In a typical family dynamic, parents fulfill their children's needs while children receive care and guidance. However,
when parents face difficulties fulfilling their roles, children may assume adult responsibilities — a phenomenon
culturally encapsulated in the Filipino term "Pagsalo," which, in this study, refers to taking on emotional or caregiving
responsibilities within the family to maintain balance and support. Hence, this study focuses on the lived experiences
of Filipino parentified young adults. Specifically, the researcher sought to explore the challenges participants faced,
the circumstances that led to their parentification, the emotions they experienced, the coping strategies they employed,
and the meaningful insights they gained from navigating these experiences. The study utilized a qualitative
phenomenological design and explored the experiences of 10 Filipino young adults identified through snowball
sampling. To enhance credibility, triangulation was applied by including insights from ten secondary participants
(siblings or close friends). Data were gathered through validated semi-structured interviews and analyzed to capture
the essence of parentification experiences. Findings revealed that Filipino young adults who experienced
parentification bore significant financial, emotional, and caregiving responsibilities. This phenomenon was commonly
associated with factors such as family financial instability, parental illness, and parental loneliness. A strong sense of
familial duty profoundly influenced their life choices, often leading them to prioritize emotional and financial stability
before contemplating marriage. While they showed resilience and ambition, they also struggled with emotional
exhaustion, feelings of guilt when taking time to rest, and disappointment toward their parents' behavior. To cope,
they turned to prayer, support systems, and self-care. Findings highlight how parentification can be both a burden and
a source of growth, with important implications for culturally sensitive research, interventions, and education in the
Filipino context. The study underscores the profound impact of parentification on Filipino young adults, emphasizing
the need for mental health support, tailored interventions, and family-centered programs. Schools, professionals, and
community organizations may collaborate to provide emotional, financial, and educational support, thereby promoting
healthier family dynamics and improved well-being.
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